Anonymous asked: ..I read his inbox, and sent box. Even up until days ago, he's messaging and conversing at length with transexuals and girls with overtly slutty photos. This is all the while we're exchanging "I love you's" and he wants me to meet his parents. He comes back from his business trip next week, I plan to confront him then. If you were me, would you give this transexual sex addict with double standards a second chance? Or if you were him, would you ever change your ways to save a relationship?
Any girl who so casually describes herself as polyamorous, surely has room in her vocabulary for the word forgiveness.
Talk to him. Find out if he really has a problem, if he really cant stop.
Is he really held so tightly in the throes of sex addiction that he can’t stop getting suck-backs from trannys?
Can he stop on his own?
Does he need therapy, or perhaps SLAA?
Remember, he’s not just your lover, he is your friend too. Be compassionate and understanding. It’s ok that you dont want him doing this kinda shit, but dont make him feel bad about it. Yes the movie Shame sucked balls, but that does not mean he does not probably feel pretty dirty after fucking some awful butter-face he met on the internet. Lord knows I did—feel gross after a couple really questionable Awry-K-Cupid hook ups. Be kind and try to have a truly open dialog.
Another thing to consider, and probably the scenario I think is most likely, is that he just likes the attention he gets from trolling OKC.
Please understand, that website is like the most addictive roleplaying game ever created. It’s like World of Warcraft. But with OKC instead of going from 8Th Level Wizard back to total fucking loser when you shut off your computer and go to 7-11 for more Red Bull, you’re shutting of your computer and brushing your teeth because some slut is coming over to suck you! Even if you keep it on the internet, which is what I suspect this guy is doing, you’re still collecting n00dz, and casting dick spells and just generally killing it, and that is not only fun as hell, it’s ego feeding and super addictive.
If World of Warcraft is cocaine, then OKCupid is freebase.
Call me Jo Jo Dancer…
Anyway, hope that gives you some insight into what might be going on! And let me reiterate that any girl who is casually referring to herself as polyamorous, she can find some room in her heart to forgive a dude for getting some suck-suck from a tranny or two.